LOVE MATTERS KENYA:TOP REASONS WHY KENYAN MEN CHEAT

8 Top reasons why men cheat:
There are reasons galore why men pull
wool over the eyes of their wives.
Oftentimes, it’s out of spite and neglect,
while the other times, it’s because they
feel they will never be caught.
1. Disturbance in the marriage as the
primary reason
When there are regular fights at home
with his wife, which are left unresolved, a
pattern sets in wherein he continues to
be unhappy and ‘disturbed’. In this kind
of a scenario, either he can fight or he can
flee. When he looks for an affair, he is
looking to flee from dealing with the
issues in the marriage, and be
comfortable with that ‘other person’. It is
telling oneself that the problems do not
affect anyone and life can continue in a
better way with a parallel support.
2. Cheating men report boredom led to
the affair
Some men may find the routine of a
married life to be tedious and dull. These
men find it easier to shift dominance or
primacy to another relationship and feel
the spark outside to be a thrilling option;
instead of finding ways of charging their
marriage. It becomes present moment
for gratification versus the hard job that
they will have to do in their marriage to
resolve an issue. The extra-marital
relationship provides them with a
readymade and fresh experience, which is
appealing enough to take the risk.
3. Cheating men love to experiment
sexually
Sex has always been and will always be an
integral part of a marriage. While some
men are quite content spending the rest
of their lives having sex with the same
wife for many years, others prefer to
experiment more as a need, rather than
as an option. They want to sleep with
many women, many times, and therefore
do not think twice before an extra-marital
alliance. It perhaps makes them feel
sexually powerful and more adept than
others.
4. Cheating men are emotionally
dissatisfied
When their wives are too busy with their
own lives, working or bringing up children
or even looking after in-laws and parents,
emotionally, men are left high and dry.
But men are emotionally driven beings
too. They want their wives to show them
that they’re appreciated, and they want
women to understand how hard they’re
trying to get things right. Most men
consider it unmanly to ask for a pat on
the back, which is why their emotional
needs are often overlooked. Sometimes
the couple may not be compatible so
however much the wife may do, the man
will always find something to complain
about.
It may also happen that the woman he
cheats with is his co-worker or boss,
someone who praises him, looks up to
him, and compliments his efforts. That’s
another reason why it’s so critical that he
feel valued at home.
5. Cheating men have a history of EMR
Some men, in their childhood, may have
witnessed cheating in their parent’s
marriage. This somewhere gives them a
message that it is okay to cheat, even
though deep inside they know this is
wrong. All of us learn from our parents,
so taking the risk is good enough. This
acquired learning also happens through
cheating resorts taken by elder siblings,
neighbours, peer group and everybody
who has been impacted. Sometimes as
teenagers and young adults, some men
have had multiple relationships, these
men either intentionally or accidentally
end up going back to their ex-girlfriends.
The other lot goes back to their past style
of having multiple relationships. It is well
said, what a mind thinks, achieves. So
there are females also who are either
consciously or unconsciously looking for
such men.
6. Cheating men have wives who cheat
Men also take revenge with their cheating
wives, by having multiple relationships
themselves. Even if their wives are guilty
and come accept their extra-marital
relationships, some men continue with
their tricks. This is mostly done by men
who don’t want to forgive their spouses.
7. Cheating men think it to be ‘divorce’
Some men are willfully adulterous and
use it as a means for acquiring divorce.
The law also considers adultery as a fair
ground for the wife to seek a divorce. The
man is cheating openly and is in a non-
receptive mood, taking the wife’s feelings
of frustration to an all-time high.
Although this percentage is less but it is
there.
8. Cheating men need to be needed
When men feel that they are not needed
by their wife anymore, they look out for
some other woman, who can understand
them and make them feel special. As an
obvious outcome of a new relationship,
they get that feeling from the other
woman. And suddenly when they are
showered with attention, which they
haven’t received in a very long time in
their marriage, they toss their hands in
the air and get deep into the new hot and
happening relationship.
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