MBA in the dock as infidelity wrecks more marriages

Joan, a married mother of two, spends
the better part of her evenings attending
her MBA class at a public university
located in the heart of Nairobi City.
After lessons, she would usually meet
some of her friends to catch up on life and
exchange ideas over a drink. Then she
heads home in Buruburu, arriving there at
around 9.30pm.
Nothing unusual in that were it not for
the fact that among the “friends” she
usually sees in these evenings is a man
she has been seeing lately, popularly
known as “Mpango wa Kando” in local
parlance.
The evening classes provide a perfect
excuse for her for arriving home late. The
children will have slept. But she never
intends to avoid them: her intention is to
avoid her husband as much as possible.
The love that they once shared is no
longer there, she confesses. She does not
hate him as such, but she simply does not
love him. She is stuck in a dry relationship
for the sake of their two sons, aged nine
and six.
“I found myself bored a lot.  He (her
husband) stopped making me laugh. We
simply grew apart and I thought to myself
‘I am not that old and I got things to do
with my life,” said Joan.
So she went to school and started a
relationship.
Excuse for mischief
It is a fact that more and more women
are getting higher degrees in Kenya,
climbing the social ladder in the great
move to empower women. But it has also
provided a convenient excuse for cheating
spouses.
“MBA (Masters of Business
Administration, used to symbolically
represent higher education) has become
the excuse for most mischief,” says a
survey commissioned by The Standard on
Sunday on marriage.
According to the survey, some other signs
that a woman is cheating on her husband
include a sudden change in fashion and
becoming defensive during sexual
intercourse.
The study by Infotrak Research and
Consulting called “Mpango wa Kando Poll”
said cheating women become overly
insecure with their phones and take
refuge in the company of their friends.
Majority of those interviewed said they
get into “mpango wa kando”
arrangements for the extra cash, for
sexual satisfaction, to get children they
could not get in a marriage or just to
avenge a cheating partner.

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