What Women Really Want In Marriage

1. Respect. Show us through your
actions that you respect our opinions,
careers, interests, friends, bodies and
minds. You don’t have to agree with all
that we say or do, but try to honor our
opinions as valuable contributions.
Follow the golden rule and treat us as
you would like to be treated: Be honest,
fair, kind, and considerate.
2. S*X. Yes, we love s*x. But,
remember that there are four bases to
cover in the bedroom, not just one. Try
stopping at each base instead of being
so focused on the home run—believe
us, we’ll thank you for it! Likewise,
remember small physical touches like
massages. One can never, ever, have
too many shoulder rubs. And scratching
our heads is pretty great, too.
3. Romance. It’s another night on the
couch with take-out and TiVo? Just
because we’re staying in doesn’t mean
the evening can’t be romantic. Light a
few candles and see where the night
leads. Treat us like your girlfriend, even
after we become your wife. Date nights,
making out in the car, kissing like when
we first started dating—all of the things
that made us fall in love with you don’t
have to stop just because now there are
bills to pay, a house to be cleaned, and
kids that need to get bathed. Bring
home flowers for no reason. We’re not
talking a million naira bouquets of roses
here. Even the cheap bouquets from
the supermarket are enough to make us
smile.
4. Time. We understand relationships
can’t be all wine and roses; simply
making the time to be with us and
treating us like your top priority says
“love” more than all the fancy gifts and
lovely letters ever could. This includes
helping around the house. The realities
of a 21st-century relationship are that
both partners probably work. If you
happen to get home before we do, why
not take vacuum the living room or
throw in a load of laundry? If you take
the garbage out without being asked,
chances are you’ll be getting a big ole
smooch when you come back.
5. Dinner . Of the homemade variety.
You may not be good at cooking and you
may not know how to boil water. But
greeting us at the door after a long day
with fish sticks (or whatever you can
wrastle up) makes us swoon, because it
shows that you’ve been thinking about
us and our hectic day
6. Communication. Women are vocal
creatures. We know you love us, but it’s
nice to hear you say it, too. We can also
be insecure. We wish we weren’t, but
the reality is that we often notice our
wobbly thighs and forget about our
gorgeous eyes. So let us know when
you think we’re hot. Tell us we’re
beautiful. It helps us feel good. Plus,
when we feel sexy we’re more likely to
act sexy. Words of appreciation aren’t
half-bad either. Tell us you love the
lasagna we made. Thank us for driving
the kids to school. Notice that we
cleaned the bathtub. It doesn’t have to
be over the top, just let us know that
you see the effort we put in, and you’re
grateful.
7. Consistency. This doesn’t mean be
boring and predictable. It means that
we know you will (usually, no one is
perfect!) give us the love and support
we need. Knowing that you’re coming at
this with the same desires and energy
as we are goes a long way to making us
feel secure.

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